ENOUGH IS ENOUGH YOUNG NIGERIAN'S ARE NOW ANGRY

This is part of our Nigerian-ness, the belief that he who is loudest must be right. We know this, yet we remain silent on issues that affect our well being and livelihood.

There’s a saying that “one man with a Gun/Gong is a majority”, this holds true especially in Nigeria and there is no clearer indication of this than with the Niger Delta Amnesty programme and now the olive branch being offered to the Boko Haram sect. You need to make enough noise vocally or violently…it’s the fastest way to be noticed and heard out in Nigeria. Yet, we the average Nigerian have become the silent majority while the noisy minority get all the airplay.

Noisemaking is big business in Nigeria too, many successful businesses are seldom the most effective, you know that dirty little Bukka you don’t want to be seen entering. Yes that one! Their turnover is probably higher than your local Mr Biggs. Why? I don’t know! But the way people speak about these places with such endearment makes them hard to resist e.g. Amala Shitta, Canopy, Calabar kitchen, Olobelólóko, food is ready! etc (No disrespect intended to any of our favourite kitchens!) Nigerians seldom pick the most convenient venues to have weddings and other events, we pick the most hyped up one even if we need to double park on the roads and pay local touts to watch over (and vandalise) our cars on narrow, untarred roads.

Our Government and politicians have always been louder than the people and that is why they continue to misgovern us without fear or hesitation. It is for the same reason MTN and friends give us appalling service but seldom bother to compensate us or even apologise to us. They understand our docility and how we will never struggle to speak louder than them. But they have it right, we are timid, even when we have a just cause, we back down when they speak over us.

Remember the fuel subsidy removal fiasco in January? Did you see the Blitz of SURE-P (subsidy reinvestment and empowerment programme) commercials on TV? You couldn’t escape it on National TV, The Presidents most eloquent henchmen (and women too) were out on the front lines doing a great job selling it to us… Atedo Peterside, Sanusi Lamido and our own World Bank heavyweight, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, painted the picture that Nigeria was about to go broke and bust! “We must discontinue subsidies and deregulate petrol now! Tomorrow could be too late if we were to have a future, the wealth will go round when we deregulate” bla bla…

Touché Mr President, your citizens now recognise that we are no match for you in a Media war! But who are you at war with? Us or the forces that stop us from being great? Let us help you speak against our real enemy your Excellency.
This is a ‘call-to-noise’ to all Nigerians; we need to speak up a lot more on all the little elements of daily life that don’t work. I dare say that even though our occupy Nigeria protests couldn’t crash the price of petrol back to N65, the noise we made was heard and has exposed many other critical issues that need to be addressed-Police reform, Budget & National assembly expenses, Pension reform, NNPC & fuel subsidy, some sort of National Dialogue etc.

But it doesn’t end there, why is there no collective noise on the scourge of Boko Haram? The Govt says it’s chasing faceless ghosts, Families of both regular citizens and law enforcement agents are being bereaved every day. How can we be silent and let CNN and Al Jazeera alone do the talking for us? Muslims, Christians, Civilians & Law enforcement are all targets. Why do we remain silent? The worst case scenario (which is never as far away as we think) is that citizens sincerely seeking peace willingly submit to the dictates of Boko Haram in exchange for some protection and stability, we saw this with the Taliban who coerced their own legitimacy in Afghanistan.

Just go to a bank, government office or airport and try to ask for your basic right…and by basic, I mean something as simple as being attended to politely. Ask first time, you’re likely to be ignored, second, probably a side eye but now try again: This time raise your voice, bang on a desk and then throw your hands about and possibly ask for a manager! Ah! Odds are 80-20 you’ll resolve your inquiry faster or at least get a detailed response from someone who acknowledges you exist.

We’ve become soft as a citizenry; people are always ready to take us for a ride. It was with pride I watched the Federal Government make a lot of noise and deport South Africans in retaliation. Not that I’ve not been offered yellow cards for cheap at Lagos Intl. airport, or angry that SA immigration didn’t have an immunisation point at the airport…but because of the sheer disregard and shabby treatment our green passports qualify us for. The FG made some noise, we received an apology and we’ve been promised fairer treatment. The carrot is that other countries will think twice before treating Nigerians with such disdain.

This is how to get results in Nigeria; it’s not the nicest or most honourable way, but it works! Why won’t you make a little noise today? Wherever you see something unjust, make noise about it and I mean every day, every time and everywhere. When you see NAFDAC burning fake drugs and biscuits in some giant bonfire, it’s not because they’re pyromaniacs, but what better way to get attention than to set something on fire? Today a NAFDAC registration number is internationally accepted to stand for quality. Making noise works in getting attention, attention works to inspire change.

When is the next ‘give us steady electricity’ rally? Who’s pushing the government to sit up over security? Where are the placard carriers asking the National Assembly to cut their incomes by 30%? When are we saying enough is enough to irresponsible Danfo & Okada drivers? Who will hold the major telecom players to account and remind them we pay for the services they deny us? Who will tell the snotty HR people that equal opportunity is a right & not a privilege at work?

I was privileged to be a part of the Amnesty programme for the Niger Delta and worked closely with some ex militants. Many confided in me they didn’t want to take up arms but the injustice & neglect they had experienced was just too much. MEND was effectively a military arm to express the sincere noise and groaning of the Niger Delta. The people cried and MEND was born, they made noise, the country heard them, the country helped them. This is not a call to arms or congratulations to MEND, the FG, being the louder noise-maker as previously established, will take credit for the Amnesty and optimistically, the renaissance of the Niger Delta. But the real winner is the Federal Republic of Nigeria, the government and the people, Thesis VS Anithesis=Progress.

Making noise and speaking out is a step in the right direction to enforcing change. It should be every Nigerians civic duty to stand a little taller and see things done a little better. It is patriotic and not rebellious in the least, don’t be told otherwise. I promise you this in advance: dirty looks, rude comments, some embarrassment &huge criticism, but I also tell you that this is the only way to make things work in Nigeria. The cost of not making noise is too high to consider, it is a complete failure of all our efforts, dreams and aspirations.
If you’re reading this, you have heard my noise. Your turn now…

HOW TO WIN HER HEART

How to get a girl is a great deal for many guys. Nearly half of men population is confused on how to get a girl. They are not sure of what to do to attract girls and win their love. There are best solutions to make it true.

Below few important tips are provided on how to get a girl to like you. Be yourself If you want to get a girl to like you, then the most important thing is to remain yourself. When you start acting as if you possess few qualities that actually you don’t have, it will give you negative consequences.

Girls like guys who are able to express their individuality with high confidence. Immerse yourself If you consider very low about yourself to deal with girls, then it is high time to work out a little. You need to adapt yourself to the changing situations and become bold enough to face a girl. Start observing your family.

Keep watching on how girls / women of your family interact. If there is more number of women in your family, then you must be good enough to converse with girls. But unfortunately if you are not brought up in such a situation, then you will have to learn better ways to deal with girls.

You shouldn't avoid girls at any cost even if you are not sure enough to attract them. Because when you avoid girls, they would fear that they are not good enough to match you. This tendency will make them go away from you.

Be nice In general, being a nice person helps you forever. You can help an elderly person to cross the roads; you can suggest a kid on how to behave politely with elders; you can save an injured dog. The girl will surely fall in love with you when she realizes you are very considerate to all living beings regardless of their gender, age or species. But the main thing is, you shouldn't do all these to impress her, it should be natural. Otherwise you would find it painful. So, when you think about how to get a girl, try out things that suits best.

Be hygienic Most girls get impressed when a guy is very handsome. At the same time, they won’t even look at him if the same guy stinks. Girls don’t choose guys who don’t portray their physical appearance better. They would give more importance to how you present yourself to others. When you learn ways on how to get a girl, remember not to follow them as strict rules. They just help you in better understanding of girls and there by increasing your chances of getting a girl to like you.

Always respect her feelings, be a good listener and try to be supportive when needed. You’ll fail to win her love if you create an impression that you are just after one thing (I believe every body is quite aware of what it is).

These things have to be kept in mind when you think on how to get a girl.

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WHAT TO TALK ABOUT ON A FIRST DATE

When you’re on a first date, it’s easy to get all caught up in demonstrating, what a fine, strapping male you are. Don’t forget that you’re also evaluating her worthiness as well. One important thing that you must know about your date is compatibility.

If your interest is establishing a long term relationship, then there has to be something that the two of you are on the same page about. A previous post discussed how to keep conversation flowing on a first date by being focused on and remembering interesting and unusual things that she happens to say.

These provide lots of starting points for further conversation where you can ask open ended questions. This provides for lots of opportunity to learn more about who she is. But this strategy is incomplete. So far, she’s been doing most of the talking. All you’ve done is help her to talk about herself.

This would be great if you were a talk show host and were interviewing her. But this is a date and you’ll have to contribute to the conversation as well. So what do you say? Well here’s a tip that will allow you to kill two birds with one stone. She gets to find out about you and you get find out if the two of you are compatible. Here it is: Where ever it feels natural, try to insert comments and stories that involve your interests and your passions. I’m not talking about steering the conversation to what you want to talk about.

If she’s talking about subject ‘A’ then that’s what you’ll talk about. But the conversation will naturally move on to other things or there will be a lull. That will be your cue to talk about yourself. If you’re really into travel, then you will relate some interesting or bizarre or funny stories about what happened to you when you were traveling abroad.

When you’re doing this, pay attention to her reactions and enthusiasm. If she’s into travel herself and tells a few of her own travel stories, that’s great. If she’s never traveled before but is very intrigued and entertained by your travel talk, that’s also great. If she’s bored or starts talking about something else, then she’s revealed to you that she doesn’t share this travel passion of yours.

Throughout the date, repeat this process with your other interests. If you’re also into the great outdoors, then by all means tell her that bear story or whatever. The best way to reveal your interests is through personal stories. People find stories far more interesting than formal statements.

A point blank listing of your interests is over too quickly. It’s boring. Telling it in story format gives you the chance to be entertaining and allows you ample opportunity gauge her interest or disinterest. If though this process, you find that the two of you are compatible, your date was a success. If you find that she is not a compatible person, then your date was also a success.

Now you won’t have to spend any more time with this person and can quickly move on.

HOW TO KNOW IF A GIRL WANTS TO BE KISSED

The first kiss can be an big stumbling block for a lot of men. If you’re on a date, it’s expected.

On the other hand the lady that you’re dating has never been kissed by you before.

How will she react? Will she pull away? Maybe she’ll think that you’re coming on too strong and you’ll scare her away.

These and other similar thoughts are very common. Some guys will opt for not dealing with the issue at all and won’t make any attempt. Others will ask for permission.

Both are mistakes for two reasons:

1.) You’re hurting yourself because you’re telling her that you lack backbone. This is a big turn off for many women.

2.) You’re hurting her because you’re depriving her of her big romantic moment. This is when the strong confident man takes charge and sweeps her off her feet.

The confident man doesn’t ask for permission, he takes control. If you’ve ever peaked inside of those romantic novels that some women read, the first kiss is a really big deal. Romantic novels are popular with women for good reason. Anticipation, tension, the back and forth progression toward the inevitable act that changes two strangers into…lovers.

This is the stuff of female fantasy. If she’s into you, this is what she wants you to do. She wants you to take her and kiss her. Note the key phrase: ‘if she’s into you’. If she detests you or if there’s just no chemistry, then kissing her is a mistake.

So, how do you know if she wants to be kissed? You should be looking for signs of attraction. These are revealed through conscious and subconscious signals. Look for these signs:

1.) Physical contact - She initiates physical contact with you ‘accidentally’. This is a very strong indicator of interest. Some examples: - Her hand brushes across your arm or hand. - Her fingers slide across your hand when you hand something to her. - Her nails rake across your palm when handing something to her. - She finds an excuse to grasp your hand such as reading your palm. - She stumbles and holds on to you for support.

2.) Eye contact - She locks eyes with you. -You catch her stealing glances at you. She may hold eye contact or quickly look away when she knows she’s been caught. -She explores your face with her eyes and spends time looking at your lips. -Her pupils are dilated.

3.) Physical proximity - She leans in close. Perhaps she does this when she asks you to check something on her menu. When you’re walking together, she walks well inside of your personal space.

4.) She plays with her hair.

5.) She may adjust your collar - This is a very strong sign. When she does this, she’s taking possession of you.

6.) When you’re making your move to kiss her, she may lick or part her lips and her breathing deepen. If you’re getting signs from her but want to be even more certain, then you can start the kiss with some preliminaries.

These would be softly touching her hair or taking her hand in yours and intently gazing into her eyes and on her lips.

If she doesn’t pull away then she’s ready.

HOW TO IMPRESS A GIRL

How to get a girl is the serious matter for all the guys. We have met lots of beautiful women in our daily life. Most of the girls have a perfect face and nice hair. She dates with more skilled guys. But how will you make her to date with you?

Most of the men are attracted by the women looks. But the women are attracted by the men personality. So the personality is important on how to get a girl. A perfect man is the alpha man who has sure-footed in himself.

He will never get afraid for anything in his way of life. Most of the girls like this types of character. When a girl thinks like that she has made you is the best method to make a girl to love you. You should have deepest feeling to make a girl to fall with you.

She must get impress by your way of style. It should come from her heart. You should know the factor about how to get a girl.

One of the best attitudes to come towards on any of the particular women are:

1. Casual manner.

2. Non-attachment.

Know whether she in love with you or not. If she loves you that are amazing, if not, she has other guy who has the personality more than you. Women are not a challenge on you. But you must be challenge to her. In addition you can develop your personality and your good quality to make her to impress on you. Also you should eliminate the neediness by making your social group.

Get friendship from girls as much you can. It is very easy to get friendship with them. Also date with many girls as much you can. This will help you to make on how to get a girl. Don’t limit yourself that think to date with only your special girl. Women are the beautiful part of every men life.

So it is important to have a girl. Without girls men life will be meaningless. When you see your dream girl Say thank to god and tell “God, I should get this girl! She’s irreplaceable!” Having a girl with you will solve your all problem through your life. Also, your girl will get attracted by any guy, she too gets attraction. This is called as “social proof” phenomenon psychologically.

It is more powerful to girls not for men. Have you ever noticed that your girl friends dribble over the man at the place of the bar who has got four beauties at the table? That’s common proof in activity. It’s nice to feel a beautiful girl with feel something for her. You also should understand that many other beautiful girls are there as like your dream girl.

You should remember this often. If you think on how to get a girl you must enhance your skills and attraction. Always think that there are lots of girls in the world. It will help when your girl go away from you.

These are the secrets on how to get a girl.